Beyond “You’re So Talented”: What We Really Mean When We Praise Skill

“Oh, You’re So Talented” — A Thought on What Talent Really Means

I’ve always found it strange when people say to me, “Oh, you’re so talented.”

It’s a lovely compliment, of course, but it’s always made me feel a little uncomfortable — as if I just woke up one morning magically able to paint. The truth is, I didn’t.

Out of curiosity, I decided to look up the definition of “talented.” It’s described as having a natural aptitude or skill.

So, what exactly is aptitude?

Apparently, it means a natural ability to do something.

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And that got me thinking — if talent is something we’re “naturally” good at, then where does that leave all the years of practice, frustration, and learning that go into developing a skill?

I’ve met so many people who say, “I wish I could paint.”

My honest belief is: anyone can learn. The question isn’t whether you can — it’s whether you want to. Whether you gravitate towards it, enjoy it, or feel drawn to explore it.

Maybe talent isn’t a gift we’re born with, but a spark of curiosity we choose to follow.

I think Bob Ross said it best:

“Talent is a pursued interest.”

So maybe “talent” isn’t something that magically appears — maybe it’s something we chase, nurture, and grow into.

The natural pull and passion toward something — whether it’s been with you since childhood or discovered later in life — and the willingness to go through all the trials and tribulations but continue regardless, that is what talent truly is.